Nora Confessions Part VI

Previous for installments:  here , here ,  here ,here and here.

Sometimes when I get home from work, I’ll reach into the cheese drawer and eat a handful of shredded cheese while looking out the back window, while standing flamingo style.

I worked at a restaurant for a brief time in college. Naive Nora 19 year old had no idea that drugs were being sold from the back of the restaurant until I walked in on a “transcation.” It suddenly made sense why everyone I worked with dropped out college, seemed endlessly hungry and a listless look on their face 80% of the time.

I have no idea how to change a flat tire.

I’ve been housesitting in a super giant house this week for two cats and a tiny dog and there are moments where I want nothing more than to be able to afford a huge house, fancy car, and awesome designer clothes and at the same time a part of me wants to run away from the manicured lawns, private school flags hanging on everyone’s flag poles and be all indie-hippie and shabby chic. I have a feeling I’ll be the later.

I’ve never been to a Mardi Gras or St. Patrick’s Day parade despite the big hoopla StL puts on for each of them.

For the past year or so I’ve been mentally planning certain aspects of my wedding which I know is kind of crazy since there is no one on the horizon. All I can say is that the first dance will be pretty freakin’ spectacular if all goes to plan.

I believe I’ve seen the penguins at our zoo about 12 times.

I went to Barnes & Noble last week and didn’t buy a new book. This is *huge* for me.

Back in “the day” (meaning sophmore/junior year in college) I loved Jessica Simpson’s music and so when I saw a preview for her show “The Price Of Beauty,” I both freaked out because we all know she comes across rather… thick and applauded her for introducing non-traditional beauty concepts and ideas (by U.S. standards) to the young and impressionable.

I often wish that I had dated my best guy friend in college. We were always admittedly attracted to one another and yet it never happened. Last time we spoke, more than two years ago, he said he was getting married but sometimes thought about what could have been between us. I’ll never forget that.

The Things we Forget

When I first read this post from Just a Titch, I immediately wanted to write a post just like this. (And truthfully most of her posts move me and inspire me because she’s a gifted and talented writer. You’d never guess she was “new” to blogging.)

So I started thinking about what in the heck happened in the last decade and honestly there were a few years where I kind of blanked.

And just as quickly as I had no idea what to write about, a flood of random memories came rushing back to me…

Like how in the year 2000 I had my first real boyfriend and we made out for hours and hours on end. Which also makes me miss  making out. It’s very underrated if you ask me.

Or how in 2001 I managed to have an emergency appendectomy and miss my senior spring break and instead spent it laid up on the couch with pain meds and chick flicks. Or about the time I nearly got into a fight at my high school Prom (not instigated by me), I graduated high school and three months later started college 120 miles away from my parents. I considered leaving school and joining the army. I battled with body image and weight loss thanks to the break-up with the high school boyfriend. This was also the first year I had a beer, I kissed a guy named Cricket, and did 13 shots of Captain Morgan.

In 2002, I danced on a bar. Yes, I was that girl. And yes, I blame the shots. I also quickly realized that working in a restaurant was not a good part-time job for a college kid, or at least this particular restaurant and left six months later. I also learned the art of tailgating at football games, mastered the art of dating, the joys of studying in our fabulous campus library and fell in love with my independence.

2003 was a bit of a blur. I gave up drinking for Lent and quickly became known as Nurse Nora because the very first day of Lent one of my dormmates slipped and sprained her ankle at a party while drinking so to the hospital we went. That same night my roommate came home at 2 am and passed out in the hallway, half-naked. It was a long 40 days but totally worth it. I met my college boyfriend, a sweet, quiet country boy who showed me nothing but kindness for almost two years.

Darling and I took my Gram to England for her 80th birthday in May 2004.I turned 21 and managed 14 shots in one night. I adopted Jack, the best dog and cannine love of my life. Six months later I graduated from college, early and with honors, prepared to start my life as an adult. I moved back to StL ready for the grand adventure. College boyfriend and I broke up but it was one of those “good,” break-ups.

March 2005 I started working at the company I’m with now. (I can’t believe it’s been almost five years.) I didn’t want to admit that I was an adult and stayed out until 1 am even on the weekdays yet was thrilled to have a regular paycheck. I dated an Australian. I randomly met and dated another country boy. I moved out of my parents house and rented my own apartment. I had sinus surgery.This was the year I became responsible. It was also the year of the worst New Year’s Eve ever which is a shame because I loved that outfit but it was poisoned by the evening’s events.  

I spent the first half of 2006 in a fog, figuring out who I was, learning how to be truly independent, finding my inner strength. I dabbled in online dating and amassed a ton of batshit crazy stories. (Ask me about it sometime, I promise they are pretty darn incredible.) I was a Maid of Honor for the first time. I went to the gym six days a week. I flew to Florida to visit my best childhood friend that I hadn’t seen in 13 years.

2007 was a slew of bridesmaid dresses, champagne, of  learning how to live with a boy who isn’t family or your boyfriend, had my tonsils removed, flew to St. Thomas to be in my Florida best friend’s wedding and went on even more crazy dates. I found out that I have about 25 different food allergies and my eating habits changed drastically. My brother graduated high school and I couldn’t have been more proud. Somewhere in there I started grad school.

2008 was the year I realized that no matter who or what else is in my life, I live for me. I got healthier: hired a personal trainer, learned how to eat healthfully despite the allergies and really fell in love with myself. A few months later, I met Irish. It was a whirlwind few months, we went to Canada, fell in love and I had to learn how to be a couple again. I took two semesters off from grad school to enjoy my life, was a bridesmaid for two of my very best friends and reveled in sheer joy 99.9% of the time.

2009: Love. Vegas. School. Moving. Family. Heartache. Adjustment. Growth. Introspection. Running. Independence. Loving myself again. Inner peace.

I wouldn’t trade the events of the last ten years for anything. I hope I can say that in the next ten.

11. Sunshine

It’s incredibly easy to get up at the pre-ass crack of dawn (4:15 am, to be exact) when you know you’re headed for the land of sunshine, palm trees, seagulls, an hour’s drive to the beach, family, marriage vows, pictures, and bonding.

Highlights from the trip:

* Spontaneity. Darling and I decided to rent a car when we got to Tallahassee. And then when we got to the hotel we decided it was necessary to take a trip to the Governor’s Mall, you know, to accessorize our outfits for the wedding a bit more. We walked out with jewelry, a jacket (Darling), and sexy black jeans (me).

* Happy Hour. The hotel had a happy hour each evening and my family dominated it each evening. Between photo shoots of all the relatives, introductions to extended family I’ve never met, and just all around fun it was a great way for everyone to reconnect and let loose.

* My Girl Cousins Van & Gummy. (Nicknames, of course.) The last time I saw them was in – gasp- 1998 and 2001 respectively and my how they have grown. Van is a smart, strong, beautiful 25 year old who’s a Sargeant in the Army and it was like we never missed a beat. Gummy, my almost 16 year old cousin is radiant, intelligent and so much fun to be around; I just wish I lived closer to watch her grow up! We were over the top girls: getting ready together, giggling together, staying up entirely too late and having a sleepover in Van’s room the last night we were there. I miss them all so much already and am working on figuring out how to see them in the next six months!

* The Wedding. It was beautiful. Outdoor ceremony with an orchestral trio. Simple. Lovely bridesmaid dresses. Perfect timing (at sunset). I cried for them. I cried for me. I snapped photos. We lingered after the ceremony for more family photos. We enjoyed wine and hors d’oeuvres before the reception. I mingled. I laughed. I smiled.

* The Reception. Lots of dancing, wine, more laughter, cousin dances, slow dances. I caught the bouquet: the first wedding out of 14 weddings I’ve been to and I caught the bouquet. According to wedding myth I have two years from catching the bouquet for the meaning (me getting married) to come true. I was honestly thrilled and shocked when I caught it (ignoring all irony of the timing, of course). I even decided to carry the bouquet with me on the plane home. It made it as far as Atlanta before I decided I was annoyed with it and instead salvaged just a single rose.

* After Parties. After both the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception we partied late into the night. We played Wii. We listened to country music. We screamed lyrics at the top of our lungs.  We watched FSU v. Clemson. We just were: family. friends. together.

It’s hard to do a weekend like this justice but suffice to say it was good for the soul and warming to the heart. I just can’t wait to see everyone and feel like that again.

(No pictures since I forgot to get consent from my family. Most of them are on facebook and more will be posted soon!)

 

8. Nick of Time

I left the land of sunshine, palm trees, sunscreen, flip-flops and shorts, tans, surfer boys, family, love and laughs today to return to a town covered in falling leaves, full of hustle and bustle, work, a reality I’m not sure I’m crazy about and thankfully my dog Jack, my dad and a week off of work.

It’s late and I won’t pretend that my liver isn’t rebelling against me or that I haven’t looked at the pictures on my camera four times since I left today but I need to get some shut eye and process all the wonderment that took place this past weekend.

It’s amazing how 48 hours can potentially change your entire life in minute ways and possibly in ways you can’t even imagine.

3. Always as a Bridesmaid…

This weekend I’m heading to Florida for a few days for my cousin’s wedding. True, I haven’t actually talked to this cousin face-to-face or on the phone, well, in 15 years or so, but his mom is a loyal reader of this blog (Hi Aunt Sandy!) and one of my favorite people so off Darling and I go for a few days of family, fun and sun. A mini family reunion of sorts.

It’s also a rarity that I’m not somehow involved in this wedding in a way other than attending since I’m pretty much a perma-bridesmaid. Or if not a bridesmaid I tend to be the executive bride’s helper as was the case with the last few weddings Irish & I attended.

I thought that just for fun I’d take you through the last few weddings I’ve been in.

My college roommate’s wedding, circa 2005 (worst tan line known to man…):

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My childhood friend’s wedding, circa 2007, in St. Thomas (most beautiful setting ever):

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My (other) college roommate’s wedding, circa New Year’s Eve 2007 (complete with chipmunk cheeks):

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My best friend from high school’s wedding, April 2008 (I’m on the far left, in case you couldn’t tell):

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and most recently, my best college friend’s wedding in September 2008* (probably my favorite dress out of all of them and I have seven dresses total as we had two dresses for the one above!):

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(I was in my cousin’s wedding in 2000 but that was pre-digital camera and I can’t readily find a photo to post so you’ll have to do without.)

If you know of anyone who needs a professional bridesmaid feel free to pass my name along. It’s been a whole year since I’ve been in a wedding and I’m actually itching to be in one which is rather shocking!

1. October 2009 Recap

Current Book(s):
Work in Progress: The Wind-Up Bird Chronicles, Haruki Murakami; 
Finished: Dead as a Doornail, Charlain Harris
(I’m in a bit of a reading slump still! I blame work.)

Current Music:
Bon Jovi
Journey
Pretty much anything from the 80s

Current Shame-Inducing Guilty Pleasure:
Homemade chocolate chip & oatmeal cookies

Current Colors:
Purple

Current Obsessions:
Rediscovering my Domestic Diva
Raking leaves; odd, I know but the green of the grass is much prettier than the dead, brown leaves all over the lawn

Current Drink:
Water
Peppermint Tea

Current Songs:
I honestly can’t think of a single song right now that’s my favorie or that I’m listening to over and over again. Unusual for me!

Current Movie:
The Last Kiss
Casablanca

Current TV Show:
Color Splash, HGTV
Dawson’s Creek (I’m rewatching them because, well, I feel like it)

Current Wish-List:
Less pain and suffering amongst my friends; there’s been too much of it lately

Current Needs:

Clarity

Current Triumph(s):
Well it hasn’t happened yet but I’m taking a whole week off of work this month and will be disconnecting my work email from Blackberry. First time in three years I’ve done NO work on a vacation so if I can pull it off, it will be huge for me.

Current Bane(s) of my Existence:
I signed up for NaBloPoMo but no idea if I’ll make it
House Hunters on HGTV because the demographic of people on that show bothers me. First homes that cost $350,000? Seriously? And don’t get me started on House Hunters International; I wish I could have a second home in Italy!

Current Goal(s):

Three more pounds to go to reach my weight loss goal
Pull off NaBloPoMo this month so I can improve my writing

Current Indulgence:

Target shopping trips
Afternoon naps on the weekends

Current Blessing:
Each day is a blessing. I know, corny, but lately, it’s so very true.  

Current Slang or Saying:
I’ve been dropping the F-Bomb a lot as of late. Terrible, I know.

Current (Fav) Outfit:
Comfort is what I’m going for lately, at work, at home, at the gym

Current Excitement:
Trip to Florida this month for my cousin’s wedding
Thanksgiving & lots of family time

Current Mood:
Contemplative

What was the highlight of your October?

Confetti

Considering this winter is fast & furiously upon us, I’ve gotten a tad cozier with my Netflix movies lately. (Which is a good thing since I have over 130 movies on my queue right now!)

Last week I received Confetti, a BBC mockumentary about weddings and wedding planning.  It’s very clever and evidently it was mostly improvised which I suspect is true of most mockumentaries. You’ll laugh. You’ll cry. You may or may not wonder what your life would be like if you had a musical wedding complete with dancers and singing vows. If you’re looking for 95 minutes of something different, give this one a try.

 

What’s your favorite mockumentary? Any movies (or TV shows)  I must add to my Netflix queue?

September 2009 Recap

Current Book(s):
Work in Progress: The Wind-Up Bird Chronicles, Haruki Murakami; 
Finished: Club Dead, Charlain Harris
(I’m in a bit of a reading slump currently)

Current Music:
The Beatles
The Supremes
Marvin Gaye
Stevie Wonder

Current Shame-Inducing Guilty Pleasure:
Tortilla Chips & Salsa
E.L. Fudge cookies, chocolate icing

Current Colors:
Sunflower yellow is quickly growing on me

Current Obsessions:
Cleaning/organizing
Baking
Reading cooking magazines
Thinking up crafty projects

Current Drink:
Water.
100 calorie Coca-Cola if I need one
Slim Fast

Current Songs:
A Little Less Conversation, Elvis Presley

Current Movie:
Duplicity.
Can’t wait to see Away We Go

Current TV Show:
Sons of Anarchy

Current Wish-List:
I’d like my hair to grow faster and stop growing gray hairs
Believe it or not, more hours in the work day

Current Needs:
Sleep, always sleep.
To plan my week long vacation at the end of October

Current Triumph(s):
Slaying work projects left and right.
Conquering new dishes in the kitchen.
Staying in better touch with friends and family.

Current Bane(s) of my Existence:
Not enough time in the day to read books, catch up on blogs

Current Goal(s):
Lose five pounds by December (I’ve lost a few in the last two months)
Read a memoir by one of my favorite political figures or actors/actresses by end of the year

Current Indulgence:

Homemade chocolate chip cookies

Current Blessing:
It’s fall!   

Current Slang or Saying:
I’m not sure what I’ve been saying a lot of lately.

Current (Fav) Outfit:
I’m digging the preppy look: black pants, white blouse, argyle sweater/vest and lots of fun jewelry to go with it

Current Excitement:
Birthday celebration with the family this weekend.
A fun, graphic desinger wedding to attend in two weeks
Visiting my BFF and her husband in three weekends for winery trips, a pumpkin patch & corn maze excursion and lots of relaxing

Current Mood:
Tranquil

What was the highlight of your September?

Today I…

… left the office feeling good about what I do and how I do it (a welcome change)

… received an invite to my cousin’s wedding in Florida and plan to go

… hugged my Gram twice and gladly met several of her neighbors

… enjoyed my first Tequlia Sunrise and got a tiny buzz

… started the new Book Club book (The Hunger Games, Suzanne Collins)

… found out my old roomie and his fiance had their baby girl (and have dually noted the Baby Fever that is surrounding me)

… made plans to be poolside with KH this Saturday while Irish kicks butt during his Kickball League

… ran out of time to make all the phone calls that I want to make

… found my stack of cute notecards which means I can start creating

… talked to AT&T and discovered they failed to process my internet disconnect at my old place but have fixed it and credited my account

… jumped 10 feet in the air after lightning struck outside my office building, making the loudest “CLAP!” sound I’ve ever heard in my life

… started Season One of Gilmore Girls, just for fun

… cried over a segment I saw on Oprah

… laughed at the things I accidentally overheard while out to dinner with my parents

… had my heart melt when my younger brother shouted “love ya, sis!” on his way out the door to the Cards game

… sent Irish kisses over the phone

What was one thing you did today that stood out for you?

For BelleRenee…

…as part of her Virtual Bridal Shower

The lovely Erin put this special event together for one of my (newest!) most sincere, hilarious, honest and beautiful blog friends, BelleRenee. Since we couldn’t all gather together to throw her a shower, there’s no better way to celebrate her upcoming nuptials than with a Virtual Shower, right? You can view a list of all the bloggers who participated on Erin’s blog.

BelleRenee,

Okay, so we know I’m not married so clearly offering my own marriage advice is not possible. Thanks to the vast internet I found some great tidbits of wisdom that I thought I’d share since it struck a chord with me:

* Always try to outdo each other in kindness, that way you are concentrating on the positive

* Remember your vows and remember that often we don’t know we’re making a mistake unless we are told so speak up without being rude and hurtful.

* The secret of a happy marriage is a short tongue (or so they say).

* Marriage should not be so much about looking at each other but looking in the same direction together. I believe the message from this is to remember the positive things that brought you together and then to concentrate on positive goals to achieve as a couple.

 

* Marriage is not always 50/50. Some days you will wake up and may have to give 90% and your spouse will give 10%. Other days you may wake up and give 25% and your husband will have to put in the 75%.

 

(Source for the tidbits above is here.)
  A bit of marriage advice you may want to share with your husband-to-be, from Dustin Hoffman:

 

And lastly, I have several of Kahlil Gibran’s poems taped to my fridge because of the intense, raw emotion I feel when I read his words so I’m sharing this one I found from him with you:

 

Thoughts on Marriage

You were born together, and together you shall be forever more.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your
days.
Yes, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness.
And let the winds of heaven dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but each one of you be
alone–even as the strings of a lute are alone though the quiver
with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not in each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the Cyprus grow not in each other’s shadows

- Kahlil Gibran

And now for the cheese!
Wishing you and your man nothing but the best in life, Renee. I know from the way you talked about him in Vegas, eyes dancing and mouth unable to resist smiling, that this man makes you incredibly happy and full of joy. Enjoy all the days leading up to the wedding and all the days after. Speaking as an infinite bridesmaid, I know that weddings can be stressful but just remember that what doesn’t get done for the wedding, doesn’t matter. The small (or big) details will not change the meaning of your union together in the eyes of your friends, family and most especially, between you and your husband.

Many hugs and of course, best wishes for a lovely marriage,

Nora